How Will I Know If I Already Met The Person I Should Marry?

The choice of a marriage partner should not be based on "I get a warm,
wonderful feeling whenever we're together and I want to have that warm
wonderful feeling forever, so let's go get married". Feelings have no
logic on their own. They need to be acknowledged, of course, but they need
considerable assistance from your brain.
Marriage means choosing the person you will spend the rest of your life
with. This, as you may have guessed, is a very long time to spend with one
person. You should be ready to share your life with this person. This
person will live with you, eat meals with you, sleep with you, and go on
vacation with you. More important yet, this person will share your
children. You need to choose wisely. The decision should not be made based
on feelings alone. You need to ask yourself some tough questions. The
decisions have to be made on solid considerations. Remember to look at the
"big picture".
Will this person be a good partner? Is she mature enough to put her own
selfish desires aside to look out for what is best for the family? Is he
prepared to be a good provider? What is his track record? Is he
responsible enough to get a good job and keep it? How does this person feel
about love, commitment, and responsibility?
Do you ask yourself, "This person would be perfect if..."? If you find
yourself doing that, or if that person is doing that to you, a compromise
needs to take place. Do you ask too much from this person? Does this
person ask too much of you? When you are in love, insignificant perceived
"imperfections" shouldn't matter. If you want to change someone into your
"perfect mate" just realize that change doesn't happen overnight, and may
take several years - if it even happens. Ever heard of the saying, "You
should love people for who they are, not what they can potentially
become"?
Does your mate love their family? Does their parents approve of you or
vice-versa? This is very important in Filipino culture, but extends to
anyone. These people will be your future "in-laws" that you will spend
holidays with, family reunions, etc. Also, if you feel that this person
was raised well, chances are, they will instill the same values in your
future children.
Will this person be a good parent? Can you stand the thought of your
children turning out exactly like this person? They will, you know.
Children spend a lot of time with their parents and consequently pick up
many or most of their parents' character traits. You had better like your
spouse's traits a lot because you will be seeing them again in your
children.
If something were to happen to you, would you completely trust this
person, alone, with the ask of raising and forming your children? This is
not a pleasant thought, but it is an important consideration. Not everyone
dies at a ripe old age with great grandchildren gathered around the bed.
Sometimes a parent dies and leaves young children in the care of the other
parent. If you feel that you would need to be around to correct or lessen
this person's influence on your children,then you are considering the
wrong person.
Does this person share your faith in God? God does not give us children so
that we can mold them into the coolest, most popular people in school. Our
job is to get them to heaven. To do that, we need to raise them believing
in God. It is tough to do that if only one parent believes. Saying "this
is right and this is wrong, and I want you to ignore Mommy until you are
thirty-five" does not work. Small children ask about eight billion
questions in a single day. The answers to those questions go a long way
toward forming the kind of adults they will become. Who will be answering
those questions for your children?
Does this person you are marrying have sexual self-control? Single people
sometimes have this idea that marriage is just some kind of lifelong sex
festival and that as long as they have each other, they will never be
tempted by other people. Wrong! There are many times in every marriage
when one partner or the other is sexually unavailable do to illness, the
last months of pregnancy, and travel. There are also times when spouses
just get on each others' nerves. At times like this, other people can seem
very appealing. That can be dangerous, because there are plenty of very
attractive people out there who are willing to make them available to
married men and women. Do you want someone who has never said "no" to sex?
If he is not good at saying "no" at eighteen, it won't be different at
forty. Do you want to worry about whether or not your spouse is being
faithful?
These are very important questions, and if you are not comfortable with
all of the answers, you should definitely not marry this person. Remember,
people are not "security blankets". Get to know yourself and know what you
want - because if you figure it out later, after you are married with kids,
you'll have a whole lot of issues to deal with besides their character,
personality, and physical flaws.
None if this is to say that feelings play no role at all in a marriage
decision. You don't have to say to yourself, "Well, I suppose that you
would make a good spouse and parent, so even though I don't particularly
like you I guess I'll marry you". You need to be happy and excited about
the prospect of spending your life with someone. Your brain however must
acknowledge that this person as a good catch. You'll both will "know" when
you both feel lucky and thank God every day for each other.
Don't listen to your heart alone or your head alone. Wait until your heart
and head agree.

how to charm a woman?

How can you charm a woman? Do they like a daily check-in phone call? Does she secretly wish you'd text her in the middle of the day for no reason but to make her smile? Do they prefer expensive dinners to home-cooked meals? Rock-hard abs? Flowers for no reason?
Identifying women's turn-ons is complicated, because they all react differently. Some women you wish came with owner's manuals so you knew exactly how they were wired. Luckily, I've done most of the legwork for you and am happy to pass this knowledge on to you.
Top 10 ways to charm a woman

1. Be aware. This means cracking open more than the sports section on the daily paper. Be up on current events and learn the difference between feelings, emotions and thoughts. Women are emotional beings and tend to think things through.
“They are attracted to men who are as smart or smarter”
They are attracted to men who are as smart or smarter than them, and your knowledge of worldly matters will demonstrate your intelligence.
2. Demonstrate humor. Women love a man who can make them laugh. Now don't fret here if you're not a stand-up comedian. We all have a certain type of humor. You can be dry, sarcastic, hilariously funny, quick-witted or dark. Being able to poke fun at yourself and just plain old being goofy is a turn-on for women. Keep in mind that all women are not attracted to the same type of humor, so if you don't vibe, just walk away and try someone else.
3. Have passion. A guy who lives his life with gusto is incredibly appealing. When you speak to a woman about your life, your travels, your job, your interests, speak with passion. That passion about who you are will turn her on instantly. She will start to imagine what it will be like when you are involved with her and how passionate you will speak about her.
4. Be considerate. Pay attention to the little things and look for opportunities to make small gestures that show you care. A simple "How was your day?" and being able to listen to her when she wants to discuss something are huge. So many men forget about simple things like holding the door, paying for her valet or just thanking her for a great time last night. Women are all about a guy with manners -- she is not attracted to the dope who acts like a caveman.
5. Be honest.
“Share who you are by telling her something personal”
Share who you are by telling her something personal. Maybe share one of your favorite childhood memories or some personal growth that you have been going through. Something that will show her that you are a trusting and honest person. It also shows that you are a confident but vulnerable man. Women love to see the vulnerable side of you. Note: Don't talk about an ex in a bad way here. If you have to talk about an ex, do so in a positive manner and share what you learned and how you grew from the relationship.
6. Be flexibile. Be open to her plans but surprise her with your flexibility. Take charge and surprise her with a fun night out. Instead of being the typical guy who makes a reservation, think about how you can be the guy who listens to her and plans a great date that she did not expect. If you can pull this off, she will be open to all sorts of advances from you.
7. Be positive. If you are positive about life, it shows in your actions. I always tell men to be extra nice to waiters, bartenders and other service people. Be a courteous driver when she's in the car. When you are in line at the movies, don't complain. Look for the humor and try to have fun with people all around you. Be positive about everything, and she will find you to be very sexy and alluring. No one wants to be with a negative hothead.
8. Be balanced. Women love a successful, ambitious man. They love that you work hard, but if you constantly put work ahead of her she will become turned off. She will start to imagine what life with you will be like with her needs being ignored. If you are out meeting women to date, you need to balance your life between work and play. This will be a major turn-on for her.
9. Have ambition. Men who are ambitious about what they do are a turn-on to women. It doesn't matter if you choose to be a rich stock trader or a painter, as long as you are passionate about who you are and what you do. If you don't love what you do, find something that really turns you on. You can't attract the woman you want with a negative ambition. Women love a man who is the best at what he does.
10. Be attentive. You are out with her for the very first time, and she tells you she loves a certain type of music. On the next date take her to a lounge that plays that type of music. It is all about paying attention to the details and working on your listening skills.

This list of 10 things will work in most cases. Keep in mind there is always the woman who you just can't seem to please. If you happen to cross paths with this type of woman, ask yourself, "Why would I want to be with a woman who is so difficult?"
I tend to avoid the difficult, judgmental women. Knowing women's turn-ons and putting them into practice will help you identify women who may be relationship material. You need to realize that you want to attract and turn on the women that are attracted to you on an equal level

"a woman's worth"

The Herbrew Talmud says: "Be very carefull if you make a woman cry because GOD counts her tears. Every tear a woman shed is equivalent of man's sacrifices in life. The woman came from a man's rib, not on his feet to be stepped on; not on his head to be superior, but on his side to be equal. Under his arms to be protected and near to his heart to be loved... " Please pass this to all the women you love and to men for them to know the value of every woman...

5 quick steps to a new job

Some people blame their qualifications. Some see the general scarcity of jobs as the main problem. To those who have many years of experience, the age appears to be the main barrier. There is no doubt that economy, market demand, qualification, experience, age and luck all play a part in making it easy or difficult for you in the job market. But unfortunately, what most people do not realise is that a set of completely different factors is more responsible for their long, inconclusive job search. To understand these factors, you have to first understand the hiring process.

Getting a job is like surviving a multi-round game of elimination, which begins with spotting job opportunities and ends at interviews. Some people do not use the right job search methods and thereby fail to even spot job opportunities. They get eliminated even before the real game begins. Some do see the job opportunities, but their weak and unacceptable resumes fail to open doors for interviews. Out of those who survive up to the interview stage, many bow out of the race because they fail to project their own value to the employers. Finally, the winner is someone who survives all through and proves to be the best among fellow survivors.

If you have been looking for anew job for quite some time and are in the mode of blaming lack of opportunities, education, experience, luck, age, etc. for your current situation, it is time you shift focus to the way you are playing the game. Specially, pay attention to the following five steps.

Play by the Rules
It was Albert Einstein who said: " You have to learn the rules of the game. And then you have to play better than anyone else." Play by the following rules:
Rule of least effort: At every stage of your job search, ensure that employers spend least effort (and time) while dealing with you.
Rule of Needs and Means: Your success lies in understanding employer's needs and then showing that you have the means ( experience, education, skills) to satisfy those needs.
Rule of seeds: If you want something to happen, plant more seeds-make more attempts and be prepared that many of these attempts will not bring the desired results.
Rule of obsession: When you chase jobs that you are obsessed about, you are bound to succeed . Your obsession is your trump card.
Rule of perceived value: What matters is not what you think about yourself, but how mush value employers see in you.

Conduct Smart Job Search
If you ask 500 different persons how they got their jobs, you might see two interesting insights emerging from the replies. First, there are not just two or three methods of searching for a job. There are at least 10 different ways of finding a job. Second, not all methods are equally effective. For example, seeking help from your colleagues and friends can be one of the most productive ways of getting a job.
The smart job search is about knowing all the different methods of spotting job opportunities and then focusing on the ones that promise quicker results.

Prepare Compelling Resume
Once you spot a job opportunity, it boils down to how compelling is your resume. In the job market, your resume is like a brochure about your capabilities. And employers treat it the same way you treat the brochures you come across in your daily life. If your resume is neat, relevant, simple, solid, sharp, short and without mistakes, it can open doors for interviews and vice versa.

Send Impressive Cover Letters
An impressive cover letter accompanying a well-written resume can make a significant difference to your job prospects.
The purpose of a cover letter is to connect personally with a specific person on the other side and also to show how well positioned you are to meet and even exceed employer's needs. The cover letter is a critical document as it makes the first impression.

Be A Success At Interviews
If everything goes well, you will reach the final stage: The Interview. How you conduct yourself, not just during the interview, but also before and after it, decides your ultimate fate. If you prepare well, avoid well-known pitfalls and follow proven strategies, you will come out a winner.
Scores of highly capable, sincere and hard-working people stay stuck in their job or suffer unemployment just because they lack the skills to survive and play the hiring game. You need not be among them. If you learn the above five steps, you might fine it is after all not that difficult to get a new job. (source: jobstreet.com's career center)

thanks and gratitude

When I first came in Thailand I met this family who is very kind and accommodating. I lived with them for quite sometime. Through the kindness they have shown to others I found the real meaning of generousity, giving without expecting in return. Many times I tried to immitate them but I always failed simply because I don’t have a pure heart to help others. Im not a bad person but its just that im not a good samaritan. hehehhehe…

…and now I’m moving out and will be living on my own (again!). I would like to express my sincerest thanks and gratitude to the Sitchon family. Thank you for treating me as a part of your family, I remembered when I got an accident the wife cried coz she was worried as I was alone in a foreign place that time. Im also certain this family is one of many who prayed for my fast recovery. Thank you for letting me dwell in your place during those times I needed a shelter. May GOD gives you grace and strength so you can continue helping others.

For the Morales family you may never realize how much you inspire me. The simplicity and togetherness as a family reminded me of my late father. He taught us to live simply. A year from now I will get married and will have my own family. As much as possible I want my family to be intact and live a simple & healthy lifestyle like yours. Please help us pray That GOD may grant our plans. Please include in your prayer this one thing bothering me rightnow that Amor and me don’t have the same dinomination and practicing different doctrines. Thank you so much and the LORD be with your family always.

To Shella whose always been very supportive not just with thoughts and advices but also in financial matters. And of course I won’t be here in Thailand nor experience these life’s pleasures without her help.

… and to everyone in the house; Rudith, Jennifer, Kuya Danny and all who just “come and go”. Thank you for the happy moments we shared together. I will surely miss the things that we do… sesion.. etc. hehehhehe….

A million thanks to all of you. You are all True friends indeed. GOD Bless you all.

Above all I thank GOD for giving me friends like all of you.



With sincerity and love,

ice queen

sad life..

i guess nothing is more surprising then feeling deep in your heart that it’s finally over..i thought i t was just one of those arguments and misunderstandings but i was wrong..i was given up.

dreams shattered..plans unfulfilled..broken hearts,wounded ego,friendships ended..and spirits crushed..

i am still in limbo..

don't know where to go..

don't know what to do..

i really don't know what life has in store for me now.

i have lived my life hoping it would be you..striving so hard to make that person you..but i guess i always fail..i guess it’s not always rainbows and butterflies..

i am bitter now..but i am wishing to feel better soon..when this is over..when the pain ceases..i wish to see you happy..i wish to see you smile..i wish for you the kind of life i haven't given you.i wish you peace..

when the anger melts..when things finally dawned on us..i wish we will both be fine..

but for now..allow me to grieve..for what i am feeling is far beyond compare..the pain is almost unbearable..the pain of losing someone who means the world to me.

you are angry i know..you don't want to talk to me..you shut me out of your world..you don't want to have anything to do with me anymore..i do understand that..it is my fault and i am not putting my blame on anybody except me..and i will always be sorry for that.i guess i ran out of chances this time..im sorry it didnt work out the way we both would have wanted it so hard to be..

sad..sad..sad..life

men get even

A husband and wife are getting all snugly in bed. The passion is heating up as it sometimes does.
But then the wife suddenly stops and says "I don't feel like it, I just want you to hold me." "WHAT!?" says her husband. The wife explains that he must be in tune with her emotional needs as a Woman. He realizes that nothing is going to happen tonight and he might as well deal with it.
The next day the husband takes her shopping at a big department store. He walks around and has her try on three very expensive outfits. She can't decide.He tells his wife to take all three of them. They head to the shoe department and pick up matching shoes worth $200 each.
The pair go to the jewelry department where she finds a set of diamond earrings that her husband agrees to buy for her. The wife is so excited. She thinks her husband has flipped out - but she doesn't care. She goes for the matching tennis bracelet. The husband says "You don't even play tennis, but if you like it then let's get it."
The wife is jumping up and down so excited she cannot even believe what is going on. She says to her husband, "I'm ready to go, let's go to the cashier."
The husband stops and says, "No, honey I don't feel like buying all this stuff now." The wife's face goes blank. "Honey - I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while."
The look on her face is indescribable and she is about to explode as her husband says, "You must be in tune with my financial needs as a Man."

He Said, I Said

He said to me . . . I don't know why you wear a bra; you've got nothing to put in it.
I said to him . . .. You wear pants don't you?

He said to me . . ..... Shall we try swapping positions tonight?
She said . That's a good idea - you stand by the ironing board while I sit on the sofa and fart!

He said to me. ... What have you been doing with all the grocery money I gave you?
I said to him . .....Turn sideways and look in the mirror!

He said to me. ..... Why don't women blink during foreplay?
I said to him .. . They don't have time

He said to me. . How ma ny men does it take to change a roll of toilet paper?
I said to him .. . We don't know; it has never happened.

He said to me. . Why is it difficult to find men who are sensitive, caring and Good- looking?
I said to him . . . They already have boyfriends.

I said...What do you call a woman who knows where her husband is every night?
He said. . . A widow.

He said to me . .. . Why are married women heavier than single women?
I said to him . . . Single women come home, see what's in the fridge and go to bed. Married women come home, see what's in bed and go to the fridge.

SEND THIS TO A SMART WOMAN WHO NEEDS A LAUGH AND TO THE GUYS YOU THINK CAN HANDLE IT

This is something to think about: 4 BOYFRIENDS

Once upon a time there was this girl who had four boyfriends.

She loved the 4th boyfriend the most and adorned him with rich robes and treated him to the finest of delicacies. She gave him nothing but the best.

She also loved the 3rd boyfriend very much and was always showing him off to neighboring kingdoms. However, she feared that one day he would leave her for another.

She also loved her 2nd boyfriend. He was her confidant and was always kind, considerate and patient with her. Whenever this girl faced a problem, she could confide in him, and he would help her get through the difficult times.

The girl's 1st boyfriend was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in maintaining her wealth and kingdom. However, she did not love the first boyfriend. Although he loved her deeply, she hardly took notice of him!

One day, the girl fell ill and she knew her time was short. She thought of her luxurious life and wondered, I now have four boyfriends with me, but when I die, I'll be all alone.'

Thus, she asked the 4th boyfriend, 'I loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?'

'No way!? replied the 4th boyfriend and he walked away without another word.

His answer cut like a sharp knife right into her heart.

The sad girl then asked the 3rd boyfriend, 'I loved you all my life. Now that I'm dying, will you follow me and keep me company?'

'No!? replied the 3rd boyfriend. 'Life is too good! When you die, I'm going to marry someone else!'

Her heart sank and turned cold.

She then asked the 2nd boyfriend, 'I have always
turned to you for help and you've always been there for me. When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?'

'I'm sorry, I can't help you out this time!? replied the 2nd boyfriend. 'At the very most, I can only walk with you to your grave.'

His answer struck her like a bolt of lightning, and the girl was devastated.

Then a voice called out: 'I'll go with you. I'll follow you no matter where you go.'

The girl looked up, and there was her first boyfriend. He was very skinny as he suffered from malnutrition and neglect.

Greatly grieved, the girl said, 'I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!'

In truth, you have 4 boyfriends in your lives:

Your 4th boyfriend is your body. No matter how much time and effort you lavish in making it look good, it will leave you when you die.

Your 3rd boyfriend is your possessions, status and wealth. When you die, it will all go to others.

Your 2nd boyfriend is your family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for you, the furthest they can stay by you is up to the grave.

And your 1st boyfriend is your Soul. Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the world.

However, your Soul is the only thing that will follow you where ever you go. Cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now, for it is the only part of you that will follow you to the throne of God and continue with you throughout Eternity.

Thought for the day: Remember, when the world pushes you to your knees, you're in the perfect position to pray.

Pass this on to someone you care about - I just did.

Husband: a what women want...

The Husband Store: A store that sells new husbands has
opened in New York City , where a woman may go to choose a
husband.


Among the instructions at the entrance is a
description of how the store operates:You may visit this
store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the value of the
products increase as the shopper ascends the flights. The
shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may
choose to go up to the next floor, but you cannot go back
down except to exit the building!



So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.

On the first floor the sign on the door reads:Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs.

She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign Floor 2 -

These men Have Jobs and Love Kids.'That's nice,' she thinks, 'but I want
more.'So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads:Floor 3 - These men

Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking.'Wow,' she thinks, but feels
compelled to keep going.She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads:Floor 4 -

These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With

Housework.'Oh, mercy me!' she exclaims, 'I can hardly stand it!'Still, she goes to

the fifth floor and the sign reads:Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are
Drop-dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.

She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads:

Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this
floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.

Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.



PLEASE NOTE:



To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opened a New Wives store just across thestreet.The first floor has wives that love sex.The second floor has wives that love sex and have money and like beer.The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited. LOL

The Affair

The 6th Affair

Jake was dying. His wife sat at the bedside.
He looked up and said weakly: 'I have something I must confess.'
'There's no need to, 'his wife replied...
'No,' he insisted, 'I want to die in peace.
I slept wi th your sister, your best friend, her best friend, and your mother!'
'I know,' she replied.
'Now just rest and let the poison work .'

The Affair

The 5th Affair

A man walked into a cafe, went to the bar and ordered a beer.
'Certainly, Sir, that'll be one cent.
'One Cent?' the man exclaimed.
He glanced at the menu and asked:
'How much for a nice juicy steak and a bottle of wine?'
'A nickel,' the barman replied.
'A nickel?' exclaimed the man.
'Where's the guy who owns this place?'
The bartender replied: 'Upstairs, with my wife.'
The man asked: 'What's he doing u pstairs with your wife?
The bartender replied: 'The same thing I'm doing
to his business down here.'

The Affair

The 4th Affair

A woman was in bed with her lover when she heard her husband
opening the front door. 'Hurry,' she said, 'stand in the corner.'
She rubbed baby oil all over him, then dusted him with talcum powder.
'Don't move until I tell you,' she said. 'Pretend you're a statue..'
'What's this?' the husband inquired as he entered the room.
'Oh it's a statue,' she replied.
'The Smiths bought one and I liked it so I got one for us, too.'
No more was said, not even when they went to bed.
Around 2 AM the husband got up, went to the kitchen and returned
with a sandwich and a beer.
'Here,' he said to the statue, have this.
I stood like that for two days at the Smith''s
and nobody offered me a damned thing.'

The Affair

The 3rd Affair

A mortician was working late one night.
He examined the body of Mr. Schwartz ,
about to be cremated, and made a startling discovery.
Schwartz had the largest private part he had ever seen!
I'm sorry Mr. Schwartz,' the mortician commented,
'I can't allow you to be cremated with such an impressive private part.
It must be saved for posterity..'
So, he removed it, stuffed it into his briefcase, and took it home.
'I have something to show you won't believe,' he said to his wife
opening his briefcase.
'My God!' the wife exclaimed,
'Schwartz is dead!'

The Affair

The 2nd Affair

A middle-aged couple had two beautiful daughters
but always talked about having a son.
They decided to try one last time for the son they always wanted.
The wife got pregnant and delivered a healthy baby boy.
The joyful father rushed to the nursery to see his new son.
He was horrified at the ugliest child he had ever seen.
He told his wife: 'There's no way I can be the father of this baby.
Look at the two beautiful daughters I fathered!
Have you been fooling around behind my back?'
The wife smiled sweetly and replied:
'No, not this time!'

The Affair

The 1st Affair

A married man was having an affair with his secretary.
One day they went to her place and made love all afternoon.
Exhausted, they fell asleep and woke up at 8 PM.
The man hurriedly dressed and told his lover to take his shoes
outside and rub them in the grass and dirt.
He put on his shoes and drove home.
'Where have you been?' his wife demanded.
'I can't lie to you,' he replied,
'I'm having an affair with my secretary.
We had sex all afternoon.'
She looked down at his shoes and said:
'You lying bastard! You've been playing golf!'

I wish you enough...

Recently I overheard a mother and daughter in their last moments together at the airport. They had announced the departure.
Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the mother said, "I love you and I wish you enough".
The daughter replied, "Mom, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Mom".
They kissed and the daughter left. The mother walked over to the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see she wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on her privacy but she welcomed me in by asking, "Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?".
Yes, I have," I replied. "Forgive me for asking,
but why is this a forever good-bye?".
"I am old and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is - the next trip back will be
for my funeral," she said.
"When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, 'I wish you enough'. May I ask what that means?".
She began to smile. "That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone". She paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail and she smiled even more. "When we said , 'I wish you enough', we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them". Then turning toward me, she shared the following as if she were reciting it from memory.
I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude
bright no matter how gray the day may appear.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.
I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.
She then began to cry and walked away.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them but then an entire life to forget them.

13 quotes about sex:

1. According to a new survey, women say they feel more comfortable undressing in front of men than they do undressing in front of other women. They say that women are too judgmental, where, of course, men are just grateful.
Robert De Niro
2. See, the problem is that God gives men a brain and a penis, and only enough blood to run one at a time.
Robin Williams
3. Sex concentrates on what is on the outside of the individual. It’s funny because I think it’s better inside.
Alex Walsh
4. When a man goes on a date, he wonders if he is going to get lucky. A woman already knows.
Frederike Ryder
5. Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation. The other eight are unimportant.
George Burns
6. Women need a reason to have sex Men just need a place.
Billy Crystal
7. There’s a new medical crisis. Doctors are reporting that many men are having allergic reactions to latex condoms. They say they cause severe swelling. So what’s the problem?
Dustin Hoffman
8. Women might be able to fake orgasms. But men can fake whole relationships
Sharon Stone
9. Women complain about premenstrual syndrome, but I think of it as the only time of the month that I can be myself.
Roseanne
10. There are a number of mechanical devices which increase sexual arousal, particularly in women. Chief among these is the Mercedes-Benz 380SL.
Lynn Lavner
11. Having sex is like playing bridge. If you don’t have a good partner, you’d better have a good hand.
Woody Allen
12. Sex at age 90 is like trying to shoot pool with a rope.
George Burns
13. Lord, grant me chastity and continence… but not yet.
St. Augustine

trust and stability

ames1:6-8 But when he asks, he must believe and not doubt, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That man should not think he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all he does. (NIV)


When a country, or indeed the world, is rocked by financial instability, the cause is always the same. People have stopped trusting each other. Banks cannot be confident that they will be paid back what has been borrowed, and are nervous about new loan requests. It is just as well that God does not think like that when we pray. But some people think that if they speak to God, asking for His help, they have got to promise to pay Him back; and if they do not match His expectations, then He will never help them again. On that basis, God would help nobody!

A tight rope walker has to concentrate by looking ahead to the end of the wire. If he looks around or behind him, he will certainly fall off. We can be unstable; by partly believing that the Lord has the answer, but at the same time, looking for other answers, because we do not trust Him fully. When that happens, we can be blown off track very easily.

God answers people who trust Him alone. But He will not give us the wisdom we need unless we believe that He will answer us well, and in time. Doubts may be there, but we exercise faith and refuse to allow them to win. At work today, remember that God knows your staff relationships, market fluctuations, profit margins, and performance targets much better than you do. Whatever the problem (health, relationships, persecution, career prospects or professional standards), God knows the answer. So just stop for a moment, tell Him and fully believe that he will answer you.


Prayer: Dear Lord. Help me to realise that You are Sovereign over everything; and that You want to give me the wisdom to know what to do and when to do it - in a way that will honour You. Help me to trust you and not let my doubts win, so that Your will is achieved in my life today. For Jesus Christ's sake. Amen.

life: in a cup of coffee

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar...... and the coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with an unanimous "Yes." The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed. "Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things--your family, your children, your health, your friends, your favorite passions--things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, your car. The sand is everything else--the small stuff." If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. "Take care of the golf balls first, the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand." One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented. The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend.

BE PATIENT .............

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed
suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

RIGHT SPEECH !!!

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my
leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?"
The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than
you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

Subject: Enhancing Relationships

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose
number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".

The Rose

A man told me this interesting story:

I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being.
She said, 'Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?'
I laughed and enthusiastically responded, 'Of course you may!' and she gave me a giant squeeze.
'
'Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?' I asked.
She jokingly replied, 'I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids....'
'No seriously,' I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.
'I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!' she told me.
After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake.
We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk non-stop. I was always mesmerized listening to this 'time machine' as she shared her wisdom and experience with me.
Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.
At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I'll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards o n the floor.
Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, 'I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know.'
As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, 'We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing.
There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day. You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die.
We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!
There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up.
If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty –eight..
Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets.
The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets'
She concluded her speech by courageously singing 'The Rose.'
She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the year's end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.
One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep.
Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.
When you finish reading this, please send this peaceful word of advice to your friends and family, they'll really enjoy it!
These words have been passed along in loving memory of ROSE.
REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL. We make a Living by what we get, We make a Life by what we give.
God promises a safe landing, not a calm passage. If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.
'Good friends are like stars....... ..You don't always see them, but you know they are always there.'

Love: The One Creative Force

Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own house. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor.... Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God's kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile, kindness in your warm greeting.

A college professor had his sociology class go into the Baltimore slums to get case histories of 200 young boys. They were asked to write an evaluation of each boy's future. In every case the students wrote, "He hasn't got a chance." Twenty-five years later another sociology professor came across the earlier study. He had his students follow up on the project to see what had happened to these boys. With the exception of 20 boys who had moved away or died, the students learned that 176 of the remaining 180 had achieved more than ordinary success as lawyers, doctors and businessmen.

The professor was astounded and decided to pursue the matter further.
Fortunately, all the men were in the area and he was able to ask each one, "How do you account for your success?" In each the reply came with feeling. "There was a teacher."

The teacher wall still alive, so he sought her out and asked the old but still alert lady what magic formula she had used to pull these boys out of the slums into successful achievement.

The teacher's eyes sparkled and her lips broke into a gentle smile. "It's really very simple,"she said. "I loved those boys."

guy facts

When a guy calls you,
he wants to be with you

When a guy is quiet,
He's listening to you...

When a guy is not arguing,
He realizes he's wrong

When a guy says, "I'm fine" after a few
minutes
he means it

When a guy stares at you,
he wishes you would care about him and
wonders if you do

When your laying your head on a guy's
chest,
he has the world

When a guy calls/texts/comments/messages you everyday,
he is in love

When a (good) guy tells you he loves you,
he means it

When a guy says he can't live without you,
he's with you till your done

When a guy says, "I miss you,"
he misses you more than you could have
ever missed him or anything else...

tell: tale signs that it's love. LOVE...

You’ve got butterflies, good conversation, maybe even great sex, but sometimes it can be difficult to be sure if it’s love. How do you decipher whether the feeling in the pit of your stomach is the nervous quivering of anticipation or yesterday’s lunch? Luckily, Lovingyou.com knows that “fools in love” are easy to spot. Here are some tell-tale signs that it just be might be love, love, love.

You are best friends. You laugh with them more than anyone else. The feelings of anticipation, passion, and connection are mutual. You remember little things about each other like their favorite foods, the places they want to visit and why, their views on everything from politics to fashion, and what they love about their closest buddies, but is it enough? Take a look at these signs to be sure.

What he’ll do:

* Put you on his “A” list (pay attention — You’ll know if you’re not on it)
* Introduce you to his family
* Make plans for the future (near and far)
* Do things outside of his “box” with you
* Share his secrets and his dreams for the future with you
* Worry about impressing your friends
* Come right over when you ask him to
* Try to do things that comfort you or relieve some of your stress (like surprise you with dinner on a night you are working, rub your feet, or ask about your day)
* Appreciate and reciprocate your feelings and your actions like giving you a massage after he gets one from you, doing the dishes after dinner, or sending you a gift



What she’ll do:

* Share her embarrassing moments and fantasies with you
* Little things all throughout the day that let you know she’s thinking about you
* Fantasize about her life with you, getting married, having kids, growing old, traveling the world, etc.
* Tease you
* Hang out with your mother or talk to her on the phone
* Appreciate and reciprocate your feelings and your actions, like offering to pay for dinner, getting tickets to a game or event she knows you’ll love, or cooking for you
* Ask questions about your life — past, present, and future
* Flirt with you



How you’ll feel:

* Excited, yet relaxed
* Vulnerable, yet strong
* Comfortable enough to be yourself in front of them
* Like you want to include them in everything (but you won’t desert your usual crowd to be in a relationship with them)
* You’ll miss them when they’re not around
* You can’t wait to see them, talk to them, play with them, and kiss them
* You’ll find yourself wanting to make plans to have them all to yourself
* You’ll have urges to do romantic things (maybe on the verge of stalker-like things) that you never thought you’d never do



Signs that it’s not love:

* They blow you off or cancel dates
* Talking about commitment makes either of you uneasy or nervous
* Either of you are seeing other people
* Things are moving too quickly for one of you
* You find your partner lacking when compared to other people
* You watch a love scene in a movie or hear a love song and you feel a strong longing or desire for what you don’t have


Tips before you commit:
Take the time to compare who you have with who you know deep down that you desire and deserve. Likewise, compare the relationship you have with the one you know you really want.
Pay attention to how they treat their friends, family, business associates, and strangers. This is a good indication of how they will treat you over time and a big insight into their overall character.
Ask yourself how well you know them and how well they know you.

when a girl missing you

when a girl is mean to you after a break-up
she wants you back but she is too
scared she'll get hurt and knows
you're gone forever!

when you catch a girl glancing at you,
she wants you to look back
and smile

When a girl bumps into your arm,
while walking with you
she wants
you to hold her hand

When she wants a hug
she will just stand there

When u break a girls heart
she still feels it when
you run into each other 3 years later

When a girl is quiet,
millions of things are running through her
mind..

When a girl is not arguing,
she is thinking deeply,,

When a girl looks at you with eyes full of
questions,
she is wondering how long you will be
around

When a girl answers, "I'm fine," after a
few seconds,
SHE IS NOT FINE AT ALL

When a girl stares at you,
she is wondering why you are playing games

When a girl lays her head on your chest,
she is wishing for you to be hers forever

When a girl says she can't live
without you,
she has made up her mind that you are
her future

When a girl says, "I miss you,"
no one in this world can miss you more than that...

i am sorry

for all tHe words that were left unspoken..

for the emotions thAt were left unseen…

for all the actioNs that were not felt…

for all the paiN that i’ve caused you…

for everything that wAs not reciprocated…

..i am deeply sorry..

i am sorry because i have not shown enough..i am sorry because i couldnt do much..i am sorry because i hurt you this way..i am in agony as well..if only..if only..

cloud nine

It’s just so wonderful seeing things for the first time..capturing each moment and saving every bit of these memories in your mind..it’s like being in limbo..not knowing what to do,what to feel and how to savor them…

I wish you will get the chance to see what im seeing..feel what im feeling at this very moment..it’s bliss..it’s ecstasy..

loving

Have you ever loved somebody so much that it makes you cry?have you ever tried waking up one day finding yourself grasping for air to breathe?feeling numb all over?feeling lost..delirious..almost tasting death..and it’s all because of what???….love..love..what’s love got to do with these anyway??

“goodbye”

the most painful word i heard today is “goodbye”..that kind of goodbye that isnt followed by..”see you later or something”..

so it’s true,goodbye,is such a painful word especially when the one who said it is the one who promised never to go away,who promised you forever..and yet is also the first one to give up on it..

here i am now and reality sucks..talk about being bitter huh!*wink*..and funny how this lines continue to swarm my mind..”love begins with one hello,the hardest part is over now it’s easy letting go.one hello that’s how it starts,remember my friend goodbye’s not the end,it’s a circle you know and it begins with one hello..”

the wooden bowl

I guarantee you will remember the tale of the Wooden Bowl
tomorrow, a week from now, a month from now, a year from now.

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and
four-year - old grandson.

The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step
faltered.


The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's
shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the
floor.

When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess.
'We must do something about father,' said the son.

'I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the
floor.'

So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner.

There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed
dinner.

Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a
wooden bowl.

When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometimes he had a
tear in his eye as he sat alone.

Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when
he dropped a fork or spilled food.

The four-year-old watched it all in silence.

One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood
scraps on the floor.

He asked the child sweetly, 'What are you making?' Just as sweetly, the
boy responded,

'Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when
I grow up.
' The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.

The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless.

Then tears started to stream down their cheeks.

Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.

That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him
back to the family table.

For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for
some reason,

neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was
dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

On a positive note, I've learned that, no matter what happens,

how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.


I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she
handles four things:

a rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree
lights.

I've learned that, regardless of your relationship with your parents,

you'll miss them when they're gone from your life.

I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as making a
'life..'

I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.

I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on
both hands.

You need to be able to throw something back

I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you

But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others,
your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you
I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I
usually make the right decision.

I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.

I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone.

People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a
friendly pat on the back.

I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.

to a Keeper

One day a mother died.
And on that clear, cold morning,
in the warmth of her bedroom,
the daughter was struck with
the pain of learning that sometimes
there isn't any more.

No more hugs,
no more lucky moments to celebrate together,
no more phone calls just to chat,
No more 'just one minute' .

Sometimes, what we care about the most goes away.
never to return before we can say good-bye,
Say 'I Love You.'

So while we have it .. . it's best we love it . .
And care for it and fix it when it's broken
and take good care of it when it's sick.

This is true for marriage
....and friendships

And children with bad report cards;
And dogs with bad hips;
And aging parents and grandparents
We keep them because they are worth it,
Because we cherish them!

Some things we keep --
like a best friend who moved away
or a classmate we grew up with.
There are just some things that make
us happy, No matter what.

Life is important,
and so are the people we know
And so, we keep them close!

I received this from someone today
who thought I was a 'KEEPER'!

Then I sent it to the people
I think of in the same way !

WHAT EACH KISS MEANS?

-Kiss on the stomach; be redi,...,
-Kiss on the Forehead; expresing a lov 4 him/her
-Kiss on the Ear; seducing!,haha!
-Kiss on the Cheek; cute,
-Kiss on the Hand; I adore yah!..
-Kiss on the Neck;We belong together..
-Kiss on the Shoulder;Iwant you..
-Kiss on the Lips;Ilove you..
__ __ ___ _________ _ ____ ____________ __ ___ _____ _ ____ ____
What the gesture means...
-Holding Hands; We definitely like each other.
-Slap on the Butt; That's mine.
-Holding on tight; I don't want to let go.
-Looking into each other's Eyes; liking each oder,
-Playing with Hair; Tell me you love me.
-Arms around the Waist; I like you too much to let go.
-Laughing while Kissing;I am comple tely comfortable with you.
________ _____ ________ _ __ __________ ___________ ____ ___
Advice;
Don't ask for a kiss,take one.
If you were thinking about someone while reading this ,
you're definitely in Love.
______ _____ _______ ____________

$0.57 CENT CHURCH

A little girl stood near a small church from which she had been turned away because it was 'too crowded.'

'I can't go to Sunday School,' she sobbed to the pastor as he walked by.

Seeing her shabby, unkempt appearance, the pastor guessed the reason and, taking her by the hand, took her inside and found a place for her in the Sunday school class. The child was so happy that they found room for her, and she went to bed that night thinking of the children who have no place to worship Jesus.

Some two years later, this child lay dead in one of the poor tenement buildings. Her parents called for the kindhearted pastor who had befriended their daughter to handle the final arrangements.

As her poor little body was being moved, a worn and crumpled red purse was found which seemed to have been rummaged from some trash dump.

Inside was found 57 cents and a note, scribbled in childish handwriting, which read: 'This is to help build the little church bigger so more children can go to Sunday School.'

For two years she had saved for this offering of love.

When the pastor tearfully read that note, he knew instantly what he would do. Carrying this note and the cracked, red pocketbook to the pulpit, he told the story of her unselfish love and devotion.

He challenged his deacons to get busy and raise enough money for the larger building.

But the story does not end there...

A newspaper learned of the story and published It. It was read by a wealthy realtor who offered them a parcel of land worth many thousands.

When told that the church could not pay so much, he offered to sell it to the little church for 57 cents.

Church members made large donations. Checks came from far and wide. Within five years the little girl's gift had increased to $250,000--a huge sum for that time (near the turn of the century). Her unselfish love had paid large dividends.


When you are in the city of Philadelphia , look up Temple Baptist Church , with a seating capacity of 3,300. And be sure to visit Temple University, where thousands of students are educated.

Have a look, too, at the Good Samaritan Hospital and at a Sunday School building which houses hundreds of beautiful children, built so that no child in the area will ever need to be left outside during Sunday school time.

In one of the rooms of this building may be seen the picture of the sweet face of the little girl whose 57 cents, so sacrificially saved, made such remarkable history. Alongside of it is a portrait of her kind pastor, Dr. Russell H. Conwell, author of the book, 'Acres of Diamonds'.

This is a true story, which goes to show WHAT GOD CAN DO WITH 57 CENTS.

a dream to fly: lesson-6

Lesson 6
A little bird was flying south for the winter.
It was so cold the bird froze and fell to the ground into a large field.

While he was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him.

As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to realize how warm he was.

The dung was actually thawing him out! He lays there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy .

A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate.

Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him.

Morals of the story:
(1) Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy.
(2) Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend.
(3) And when you're in deep shit, it's best to keep your mouth shut!

a dream to fly: lesson-5

Lesson 5
A turkey was chatting with a bull.
'I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree' sighed the turkey, 'but I haven't got the energy.'

'Well, why don't you nibble on some of my droppings?' replied the bull. They're packed with nutrients.'

The turkey pecked at a lump of dung, and found it actually gave him enough strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree.
The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch.

Finally after a fourth night, the turkey was proudly perched at the top of the tree..

He was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot him out of the tree.

Moral of the story:
Bull Shit might get you to the top, but it won't keep you there..

a dream to fly: lesson-4

An eagle was sitting on a tree resting, doing nothing.
A small rabbit saw the eagle and asked him,

'Can I also sit like you and do nothing?'

The eagle answered: 'Sure, why not.'
So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the eagle and rested. All of a sudden, a fox appeared, jumped on the rabbit and ate it.

Moral of the story:
To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up.

a dream to fly: lesson-3

Lesson 3:
A sales rep, an administration clerk, and the manager are walking to lunch when they find an antique oil lamp.

They rub it and a Genie comes out. The Genie says, 'I'll give each of you just one wish.'

'Me first! Me first!' says the admin clerk. 'I want to be in the Bahamas , driving a speedboat, without a care in the world.'

Puff! She's gone.

'Me next! Me next!' says the sales rep. 'I want to be in Hawaii , relaxing on the beach with my personal masseuse, an endless supply of Pina Coladas and the love of my life.'

Puff! He's gone.

'OK, you're up,' the Genie says to the manager. The manager says, 'I want those two back in the office after lunch.'

Moral of the story:
Always let your boss have the first say.

a dream to fly: lesson 2

Lesson 2:
A priest offered a Nun a lift.

She got in and crossed her legs, forcing her gown to reveal a leg. The priest nearly had an accident. After controlling the car, he stealthily slid his hand up her leg. The nun said, 'Father, remember Psalm 129?' The priest removed his hand. But, changing gears, he let his hand slide up her leg again. The nun once again said, 'Father, remember Psalm 129?' The priest apologized 'Sorry sister but the flesh is weak.'

Arriving at the convent, the nun sighed heavily and went on her way. On his arrival at the church, the priest rushed to look up Psalm 129. It said, 'Go forth and seek, further up, you will find glory.'

Moral of the story:
If you are not well informed in your job, you might miss a great opportunity.

a dream to fly: lesson 1

Lesson 1:
A man is getting into the shower as his wife is finishing up her shower, when the doorbell rings.

The wife quickly wraps herself in a towel and runs downstairs. When she opens the door, there stands Bob, the next-door neighbor. Before she says a word, Bob says, 'I'll give you $800 to drop that towel.' After thinking for a moment, the woman drops her towel and stands naked in front of Bob, after a few seconds, Bob hands her $800 and leaves.

The woman wraps back up in the towel and goes back upstairs. When she gets to the bathroom, her husband asks, 'Who was that?' 'It was Bob the next door neighbor,' she replies. 'Great,' the husband says, 'did he say anything about the $800 he owes me?'

Moral of the story:
If you share critical information pertaining to credit and risk with your shareholders in time, you may be in a position to prevent avoidable exposure.

my son: a profound story.

Just a minute ago, i opened my e-mail and a friend of mine sent me an interesting message. A story. And I decided to copy paste to share it with you..

MY SON
This is great, take a moment to read it, it will make your day!

The ending will surprise you




Take my Son
A wealthy man and his son loved to collect rare works of art. They had everything in their collection, from Picasso to Raphael. They would often sit together and admire the great works of art.


When the Vietnam conflict broke out, the son went to war. He was very courageous and died in battle while rescuing another soldier. The father was notified and grieved deeply for his only son.


About a month later, just before Christmas, there was a knock at the door. A young man stood at the door with a large package in his hands.


He said, 'Sir, you don't know me, but I am the soldier for whom your son gave his life. He saved many lives that day, and he was carrying me to safety when a bullet struck him in the heart and he died instantly. He often talked about you, and your love for art.' The young man held out this package. 'I know this isn't much. I'm not really a great artist, but I think your son would have wanted you to have this.'


The father opened the package. It was a portrait of his son, painted by the young man. He stared in awe at the way the soldier had captured the personality of his son in the pa inting. The father was so drawn to the eyes that his own eyes welled up with tears. He thanked the young man and offered to pay him for the picture. 'Oh, no sir, I could never repay what your son did for me. It's a gift.'

The father hung the portrait over his mantle. Every time visitors came to his home he took them to see the portrait of his son before he showed them any of the other great works he had collected.


The man died a few months later. There was to be a great auction of his paintings Many influential people gathered, excited over seeing the great paintings and having an opportunity to purchase one for their collection.


On the platform sat the painting of20the son The auctioneer pounded his gavel. 'We will start the bidding with this picture of the son. Who will bid for this picture?'


There was silence.


Then a voice in the back of the room shouted, 'We want to see the famous paintings. Skip this one.'


But the auctioneer persisted. 'Will somebody bid for this painting. Who will start the bidding? $100, $200?'


Another voice angrily. 'We didn't come to see this painting. We came to see the Van Goghs, the Rembrandts. Get on with the real bids!'

But still the auctioneer continued. 'The son! The son! Who'll take the son?'


Finally, a voice came from the very back of the room. It was the longtime gardener of the man and his son. 'I'll give $10 for the painting.' Being a poor man, it was all he could afford.


'We have $10, who will bid $20?'


'Give it to him for $10. Let's see the masters.'


'$10 is the bid, won't someone bid $20?'


The crowd was becoming angry. They didn't want the picture of the son.


They wanted the more worthy investments for their collections.

The auctioneer pounded the gavel. 'Going once, twice, SOLD for $10!'


A man sitting on the second row shouted, 'Now let's get on with the collection!'

The auctioneer laid down his gavel. 'I'm sorry, the auction is over.'


'What about the paintings?'


'I am sorry. When I was called to conduct this auction, I was told of a secret stipulation in the will. I was not allowed to reveal that stipulation until this time. Only the painting of the son would be auctioned. Whoever bought that painting would inherit the entire estate, including the paintings.


The man who took the son gets everything!'


God gave His son 2,000 years ago to die on the cross. Much like the auctioneer, His message today is: 'The son, the son, who'll take the son?'


Because, you see, whoever takes the Son gets everything.



FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON, WHO SO EVER BELIEVETH, SHALL HAVE ETERNAL LIFE...THAT'S LOVE


Please send this to ten people and back to the one who sent it to you.


Do whatever you like, but remember that maybe 'one' of the people you might have taken the time to send this to, may be just the person who needs to hear this message. You have a choice to make.'


God Bless

So when can one start going steady?

Human acts are for their end: to act rationally, one must have an end in mind, and orient his action according to that end. Now what is the end of courtship?

Marriage is the end of courtship, just as final purchase is the end of shopping (even when one is just window-shopping at the moment, he is normally looking forward to buying in the near future). Thus, when to go steady is a function of the decision ” approximate as it may be initially ” of when to get married.

As previously mentioned, most girls do not want to get married earlier than twenty-five; some even much later. Hence, the healthy age for girls to start going steady can be roughly computed:

25 years old (ideal age for marriage)“ 2 years (of courtship) = 23 years old at least

Nevertheless, girls can really be quite flexible in their target marriage age: as soon as they have the right fellow, they really can get married.

But not so with men, normally. Contemporary society imposes a minimum age for man to get married well ” i.e., the age when he is professionally stable and financially solid. He is expected to be able to set-up house immediately after getting married — at least to be able to rent a flat. Otherwise he will be forced to bring his bride to his parents home or move in to his in-laws home. As Christ solemnly said, quoting Genesis: For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife. (Mt. 19:5).

In our society, this age is about 28-30 years. It takes that much time for a fellow to graduate from college (21 years old), find a suitable job after trying several (25 years old), stabilize himself in that job and get a few promotions (28-30 years old). Nowadays a joint family monthly income of P30,000 would barely enable a couple to rent a humble apartment in the metropolis, or buy a low-cost house on installment somewhere in Calabarzon. Thus, the minimum age for a man to get into a serious relationship with a woman can also be computed:

28 years old (practical age for marriage) “ 2 years (of courtship) = 25 years old at least

Of course there are exceptions e.g., if either the fellow or the girl is a millionaire to start with (from inheritance or otherwise).

Why long courtships are unhealthy?

What is wrong with starting the courtship in college or in high school and just prolonging it all the way to marriage at a much later date? The answer has to do with physiology and psychology, specifically male physiology.

Most girls are not very aware of this, but any red-blooded human male will immediately empathize with what I am going to say: Man is a very sexy (albeit rational) animal.

Girls and women are perfectly equipped by the Creator to be loving and caring also with the opposite sex without getting sexual. This is part of their femininity, which is relevant to their role in society (especially connected with child-rearing and caring for the family). Hence nurses have traditionally been women.

Thus in a boy-girl relationship, the girl can be affectionate in many ways: words, looks, affectionate touches, gestures, attention to details without getting sexually stimulated.

But not a boy. A fellow's threshold level for sexual arousal is pretty low, so that for most teen-aged boys, a physical display of affection is almost concomitant with sexual stimulation. It is a matter of physiology and psychology. Thus, a boy is not designed to spend many years with the object of his affection to his girlfriend beside him, day in and day out, without getting on with it. Either that or he is subjected to a terrible strain to control his sexual drive.

Thus, a steady relationship at college (worse in high school) can be proximate occasion for going too far, at least where the guy is concerned. But since a steady relationship always includes a girl (hopefully!), then the principle applies to both. The moral principle is that to deliberately open oneself to a proximate occasion of doing something wrong, one needs a proportionate reason as i.e., proportionate to the gravity of the wrong that one is exposing himself to.

Serious Virus Coming!

Checked with Norton Anti-Virus, and they are gearing up for this virus!
Snopes checked (URL above:), and it is for real!!
Get this E-mail message sent around to your contacts ASAP.
PLEASE FORWARD THIS WARNING AMONG FRIENDS, FAMILY AND CONTACTS!
You should be alert during the next few days. Do not open any message
with an attachment entitled 'POSTCARD FROM HALLMARK,' regardless of
who sent it to you. It is a virus which opens A POSTCARD IMAGE, which 'burns' the
whole hard disc C of your computer. This virus will be received from someone
who has your e-mail address in his/her contact list. This is the reason
why you need to send this e-mail to all your contacts It is better
to receive this message 25 times than to receive the virus and open it.
If you receive a mail called' POSTCARD,' even though sent to you by a
friend, do not open it! Shut down your computer immediately.
This is the worst virus announced by CNN. It has been classified by
Microsoft as the most destructive virus ever. This virus was
discovered by McAfee yesterday, and there is no repair yet for this kind of virus.
This virus simply destroys the Zero Sector of the Hard Disc, where the vital
information is kept.

searching for the answer

In life, We always search for answers because we want to prove to ourselves that we had made the right decisions. But the truth is, we cannot search for what is not there. Things happen. That is why, we forgive people even if they hurt us, we love people who do not love us, and we smile after every painful breaks of our hearts. At the end of the day, the lessons you will get, are the answers you are searching for.


Ice Queen :)

How long should the courtship be?

When I ask young ladies this question, they invariably answer "a long time". I always have to stifle a chuckle, since quite often the young lady in question would be in her late teens and "engaged", and of course most girls nowadays are not really contemplating marriage before their 25th birthday. This is quite logical, since most girls " at least in the urban setting " go to college, and would therefore want to experience a bit of their professional career before they settle down to the more serious business of raising up a family.

Hence, the young lady is not answering my question, but is rather thinking of how long it will take her to be old enough to get married. If she is only nineteen, and she wants to enjoy her professional career until she is twenty-five, it stands to reason that she and her boyfriend will have to wait at least six years before they can marry.

Rephrasing the question normally unravels the fuzzy logic. If you were twenty-six I ask and you start going steady with a twenty-eight year-old fellow who is professionally stable and well off, how much time do you think will you need to make up your mind about each other? She normally answers: A year.

This is the crux of the matter. A couple going steady are calling each other up daily on the phone, probably going to and coming home from office together, spending the whole weekend together, meeting each other's family it is a super-exposure to each other. If they cannot decide in a year or two whether they are meant for each other or not, there is something wrong with their thinking process.

suspire..

Tears streak my face rolling silently down; where their once was a smile is now only a frown. Loneliness consumes me but my love for you does too all that’s left in my head are whispering images of you. Half of me is missing half my heart and soul, I’m trying to remain strong but I’m slowly losing control. I can’t catch my breath my chest feels so tight if only you were here to get me through each night. I can barely recall the feel of your skin a whisper of you is all I can summon from within. I can’t seem to remember the curve of your face the way that you smell things only you being here can replace. Gone is the sound of your laughter on my ears now all that’s left is the salty taste of my tears…funny, even you wanted to sort out things it would be impossible coz too much pain has been taken. Life may seem so unfair, but what the most important what life has thought me “ to undertake challenges and to be able to overcome fear within, emotionally and mentally.” Someday, I could reach higher than the mountain, imagine with tender passion and love as I wanted to be… I may take lots of wounded actions, feel so much pain and cried million tears but in the end a brighter life is waiting for me to move forward… it’s who I am and always will be the person from within…

virus attack!

ou probably got a message from one of your friend saying you'd been filmed and there's a web link that you tried opening but can't get through. Well, by doing that you're not only posting an automatic message to some of your friends but risking your computer for potential virus too....
So be aware of this messages and try to ignore or delete them. They say that the people who's doing this are from the Canada and their mimicking Youtube's URL web page.
Right now their posting automatic comments with the video of a sexy girl and if you tried opening it you'll post the exact same comment to some of your random friends...
In addition, if you receive a comment and/or message that has a video with a link that takes you to what looks like a friendster log-in page delete the comment and do not use the log-in link.
Someone has phished the account it came from and is trying to phish yours.
Using the log-in link will give them your log-in info and access to your account to do whatever they want.
To help prevent this. I'm asking everyone to repost this bullettin or send this message to all of your friends. With this we can have a much more better friendster experience.
Thanks to all.
Back

6 words that truly hurts...

if this doesn't touch you... you're heartless.
One night a guy & a girl were
driving home from the movies.
....
The boy sensed there was
something wrong because of the painful
silence they shared between them.
The girl then asked the boy to pull over
because she wanted to talk.
She told him that her
feelings had changed & that it was time to move on
A silent tear slid down his cheek as he
slowly reached into his pocket & passed her a folded note
At that moment, a drunk driver was speeding down
that very same street.
He swerved right into the drivers seat,
killing the boy.Miraculously, the girl survived.
....
Remembering the note, she
pulled it out & read it , it said
"Without your love, I would die."
...

at glance…

t glance,i am happy right now.why?because its started to be a meaningful and hopefully a fruitful one..hehehe it should be that way coz it makes me feel younger all the time..living a simple life makes me more flexible towards to others.because of someone so dear to me makes me happy all the time..hoping that the happiness that i have right now will continue to shine…Love you that much and you knew who you are hope you feel the same way too…

Thanks and Gratitude

Another year has passed. We are now starting a new year, and shall face a new chapter of our lives.
New challenges await us. But before we take the battle let us first look back and think of things that had happened last year and express our thanks and gratitude to the people who have helped us, to those who been with us throughout the year.
First and foremost, I thank GOD for all the blessings He had given me. Despite of being unfaithful HE still there to guide me and answer my prayers. THANK YOU LORD.
Second, to my mi amore thank you for the great love you have showed me. I may not be the perfect girlfriend whom you have wished for but I'll try to be a good one.
Next, with all my heart I thank my dearest family for the LOVE and compassion. They have taught me to be a woman of good value.
Lastly, to all my friends who been there for me through thick and thin.
THANKS TO ALL OF YOU!

LifE...

If there was a time that I got tired and cannot explain why sadness is kept haunting me…coz It is beyond my control… neither of us can do such things that we might lost and might retrieve But who knows, dreams are too wide… “LIFE, they say, is a matter of choice. You can either be happy and full of laughter or sad and grieving. Happy people do not depend on excitement and “fun” supplied by externals. They enjoy the fundamental, often very simple, things of life. They waste no time thinking other pastures are greener; they do not yearn for yesterday or tomorrow. They savor the moment, glad to be alive, enjoying their work, their families, and the good things around them. They are adoptable; they can bend with the wind, adjust to the changes in their times, enjoy the contests of life, and fell themselves in harmony with the world. His or her eyes are turned outward; “The difference between loving a person internally than external is not having an affair with someone else but having fear within you. I might say, people have there own indifferences but to sort things out is the best outlet that may occur, is to find out what would be the option that can help to create a solution that both person can have.“Someday you’re gonna realize, One day you’ll see this through my eyes, By then I won’t even be there, I’ll be happy somewhere, Even if I cared, I know you don’t really see my worth, You think you’re the last guy on earth, We’ll I’ve got news for you, I know I’m not that strong, But it won’t take long, Won’t take long, ‘Coz someday someone’s gonna love me, The way I wanted you to need me, Someday someone’s gonna take your place, One day I’ll forget about you, You’ll see, I won’t even miss you, Someday, someday, Right now I know you can tell, I’m down and I’m not doing well, But one day these tears they will all run dry, I won’t have to cry, sweet goodbye. Coz’ someday someone’s gonna love me, The way I wanted you need me, Someday someone’s gonna take your place, Ohhh.. One day I’ll forget about you, You’ll see, I won’t even miss you, Someday, I know someone’s gonna be there, Someday someone’s gonna love me, The way I wanted you to need me, Someday someone’s gonna take your place, One day I’ll forget about you You’ll see, I won’t even miss you, Someday, someday…Oh yeah… Cry until you relish all the anxiety, cry until you vanish all the pain..

Alaska Retirement

om had been in the liquor business for 25 years. Finally, sick of the stress, he quit his job and bought 50 acres of land in Alaska as far from humanity as possible. He saw the postman once a week and got groceries once a month. Otherwise, it was total peace and quiet.
After about six months of almost total isolation, someone knocked on his door. He opened it and a huge, bearded man was standing there.
"Name's Lars, your neighbor from forty miles up the road. Having a Christmas party Friday night...thought you might like to come. About 5:00."
"Great", says Tom, "after six months out here I'm ready to meet some local folks. Thank you."
As Lars left, he stopped. "Gotta warn you......be some drinkin'."
"Not a problem" says Tom. "After 25 years in the business, I can drink with the best of 'em."
Again, the big man started to leave and stopped. "More 'n' likely gonna be some fightin', too."
"Well, I get along with people; I'll be all right. I'll be there. Thanks again."
"More'n likely be some wild se x, too!"
"Now that's really not a problem," says Tom, warming to the idea. "I've been all alone for six months! I'll definitely be there. By the way, what should I wear?"
"Don't much matter ..... Just gonna be the two of us."