What is wrong with starting the courtship in college or in high school and just prolonging it all the way to marriage at a much later date? The answer has to do with physiology and psychology, specifically male physiology.
Most girls are not very aware of this, but any red-blooded human male will immediately empathize with what I am going to say: Man is a very sexy (albeit rational) animal.
Girls and women are perfectly equipped by the Creator to be loving and caring also with the opposite sex without getting sexual. This is part of their femininity, which is relevant to their role in society (especially connected with child-rearing and caring for the family). Hence nurses have traditionally been women.
Thus in a boy-girl relationship, the girl can be affectionate in many ways: words, looks, affectionate touches, gestures, attention to details without getting sexually stimulated.
But not a boy. A fellow's threshold level for sexual arousal is pretty low, so that for most teen-aged boys, a physical display of affection is almost concomitant with sexual stimulation. It is a matter of physiology and psychology. Thus, a boy is not designed to spend many years with the object of his affection to his girlfriend beside him, day in and day out, without getting on with it. Either that or he is subjected to a terrible strain to control his sexual drive.
Thus, a steady relationship at college (worse in high school) can be proximate occasion for going too far, at least where the guy is concerned. But since a steady relationship always includes a girl (hopefully!), then the principle applies to both. The moral principle is that to deliberately open oneself to a proximate occasion of doing something wrong, one needs a proportionate reason as i.e., proportionate to the gravity of the wrong that one is exposing himself to.
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