om had been in the liquor business for 25 years. Finally, sick of the stress, he quit his job and bought 50 acres of land in Alaska as far from humanity as possible. He saw the postman once a week and got groceries once a month. Otherwise, it was total peace and quiet.
After about six months of almost total isolation, someone knocked on his door. He opened it and a huge, bearded man was standing there.
"Name's Lars, your neighbor from forty miles up the road. Having a Christmas party Friday night...thought you might like to come. About 5:00."
"Great", says Tom, "after six months out here I'm ready to meet some local folks. Thank you."
As Lars left, he stopped. "Gotta warn you......be some drinkin'."
"Not a problem" says Tom. "After 25 years in the business, I can drink with the best of 'em."
Again, the big man started to leave and stopped. "More 'n' likely gonna be some fightin', too."
"Well, I get along with people; I'll be all right. I'll be there. Thanks again."
"More'n likely be some wild se x, too!"
"Now that's really not a problem," says Tom, warming to the idea. "I've been all alone for six months! I'll definitely be there. By the way, what should I wear?"
"Don't much matter ..... Just gonna be the two of us."
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Monday, December 22, 2008
hatred
The first one is the one that make incoherence of the mind so the person does not recognize what he says.
The second kind of anger does not prevent the person from knowing what he says and recognizing his intention.
There is a third kind of anger. This is where the anger will be intense so that the person’s mind is partially out of control and steers the person away from his intention. The person will regret what he does as soon as his anger subsides.
The second kind of anger does not prevent the person from knowing what he says and recognizing his intention.
There is a third kind of anger. This is where the anger will be intense so that the person’s mind is partially out of control and steers the person away from his intention. The person will regret what he does as soon as his anger subsides.
Thursday, December 18, 2008
i swept away
I never had anything happen so fast
took one look and i shattered like a glass
i guess i let it show
cause your smile told me you knew
that you’re everything i ever wanted at once
there’s no holding this heart when it knows what it wants
and i never wanted anything more than to know you
i was swept away no one in the world but you and i
gotta find a way to make you feel the way that i do
i was swept away without a warning
like night when the morning begins the day
i was swept away
and so it begins this journey of love
the summer wind carries us to a places all or own
the words of a look
the language of touch
the way that you want me means so much
and i never wanted anything more than to love you
i am swept away
no one in this world but you and i
gotta find a way to make you feel the way that i do
i am swept away without a warning
like night when the morning begins the day
i was swept away
ooohh i hope i wake up soon
ooooh im a victim of that crazy moon
the very first time you said my name
i knew it would never sound the same
something about me has changed forever
cant you see i am swept away?
no in the world but you and i
gotta find a way to make you feel the way that i do
i am swept away without a warning
like night when the morning begins the day
i was swept away
away,seeing my tomorrows in your eyes
gotta find a way to make you feel the way that i do
i was swept away
without a warning like night when the morning begins the day
i was swept away
we were swept away
dreaming of you swept away
cause your smile told me you knew
that you’re everything i ever wanted at once
took one look and i shattered like a glass
i guess i let it show
cause your smile told me you knew
that you’re everything i ever wanted at once
there’s no holding this heart when it knows what it wants
and i never wanted anything more than to know you
i was swept away no one in the world but you and i
gotta find a way to make you feel the way that i do
i was swept away without a warning
like night when the morning begins the day
i was swept away
and so it begins this journey of love
the summer wind carries us to a places all or own
the words of a look
the language of touch
the way that you want me means so much
and i never wanted anything more than to love you
i am swept away
no one in this world but you and i
gotta find a way to make you feel the way that i do
i am swept away without a warning
like night when the morning begins the day
i was swept away
ooohh i hope i wake up soon
ooooh im a victim of that crazy moon
the very first time you said my name
i knew it would never sound the same
something about me has changed forever
cant you see i am swept away?
no in the world but you and i
gotta find a way to make you feel the way that i do
i am swept away without a warning
like night when the morning begins the day
i was swept away
away,seeing my tomorrows in your eyes
gotta find a way to make you feel the way that i do
i was swept away
without a warning like night when the morning begins the day
i was swept away
we were swept away
dreaming of you swept away
cause your smile told me you knew
that you’re everything i ever wanted at once
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
God: in a joking mood
God is in joking mood
A man was praying to god.
He said, "God?"
God responded, "Yes?"
And the Guy said, "Can I ask a question?"
"Go right ahead", God said.
"God, what is a million years to you?"
God said, "A million years to me is only a second."
The man wondered.
Then he asked, "God, what is a million dollars worth to you?"
God said, "A million dollars to me is a penny."
So the man said, "God can I have a penny?"
And God cheerfully said,
"Sure!...... .just a second.
A man was praying to god.
He said, "God?"
God responded, "Yes?"
And the Guy said, "Can I ask a question?"
"Go right ahead", God said.
"God, what is a million years to you?"
God said, "A million years to me is only a second."
The man wondered.
Then he asked, "God, what is a million dollars worth to you?"
God said, "A million dollars to me is a penny."
So the man said, "God can I have a penny?"
And God cheerfully said,
"Sure!...... .just a second.
Strange sounds
man is driving down the road and his car breaks down near a monastery. He goes to the monastery, knocks on the door, and says, My car broke down. Do you think I could stay the night?
The monks graciously accept him, feed him dinner, and even fix his car. As the man tries to fall asleep, he hears a strange sound; a sound like no other that he has ever heard. The next morning, he asks the monks what the sound was, but they say, We can't tell you. You're not a monk.
The man is disappointed but thanks them anyway and goes about his merry way. Some years later, the same man's car breaks down in front of the same monastery.
The monks again accept him, feed him, and even fix his car.
That night, he hears the same strange mesmerizing sound that he had heard years earlier.
The next morning, he asks what the sound was, but the monks reply,
We can't tell you. You're not a monk.
The man says, All right, all right. I'm dying to know.
If the only way I can find out what that sound was, is to become a monk, how do I become a monk?
The monks reply, you must travel the earth and tell us how many blades of grass there are an d the exact number of sand pebbles. When you find these numbers, you will become a monk.
The man sets about his task. Some Forty-five years later, he returns and knocks on the door of the monastery. He says, I have traveled the earth and devoted my life to the task demanded and have found what you had asked for. There are 371,145,236, 284,232 blades of grass and 231,281,219, 999,129,382 sand pebbles on the earth.
The monks reply, Congratulations, you are correct and now you are a monk.
We shall now show you the way to the sound.
The monks lead the man to a wooden door, where the head monk says, the sound is behind that door.
The man reaches for the knob, but the door is locked. He asks, May I have the key?
The monks give him the key, and he opens the door.
Behind the wooden door is another door made of stone. The man requests the key to the stone door.
The monks give him the key, and he opens it, only to find a door made of ruby. He demands another key from the monks, who provide it. Behind that door is another door, this one made of sapphire. And so it went until the man had gone through doors of emerald,...
....silver, topaz, and amethyst.
Finally, the monks say, This is the key to the last door.
The man is relieved to no end. He unlocks the door, turns the knob, and behind that door he is astonished to find the source of that strange sound.
It is truly an amazing and unbelievable sight!!!
But I can't tell you what it is because you're not a monk!!!
The monks graciously accept him, feed him dinner, and even fix his car. As the man tries to fall asleep, he hears a strange sound; a sound like no other that he has ever heard. The next morning, he asks the monks what the sound was, but they say, We can't tell you. You're not a monk.
The man is disappointed but thanks them anyway and goes about his merry way. Some years later, the same man's car breaks down in front of the same monastery.
The monks again accept him, feed him, and even fix his car.
That night, he hears the same strange mesmerizing sound that he had heard years earlier.
The next morning, he asks what the sound was, but the monks reply,
We can't tell you. You're not a monk.
The man says, All right, all right. I'm dying to know.
If the only way I can find out what that sound was, is to become a monk, how do I become a monk?
The monks reply, you must travel the earth and tell us how many blades of grass there are an d the exact number of sand pebbles. When you find these numbers, you will become a monk.
The man sets about his task. Some Forty-five years later, he returns and knocks on the door of the monastery. He says, I have traveled the earth and devoted my life to the task demanded and have found what you had asked for. There are 371,145,236, 284,232 blades of grass and 231,281,219, 999,129,382 sand pebbles on the earth.
The monks reply, Congratulations, you are correct and now you are a monk.
We shall now show you the way to the sound.
The monks lead the man to a wooden door, where the head monk says, the sound is behind that door.
The man reaches for the knob, but the door is locked. He asks, May I have the key?
The monks give him the key, and he opens the door.
Behind the wooden door is another door made of stone. The man requests the key to the stone door.
The monks give him the key, and he opens it, only to find a door made of ruby. He demands another key from the monks, who provide it. Behind that door is another door, this one made of sapphire. And so it went until the man had gone through doors of emerald,...
....silver, topaz, and amethyst.
Finally, the monks say, This is the key to the last door.
The man is relieved to no end. He unlocks the door, turns the knob, and behind that door he is astonished to find the source of that strange sound.
It is truly an amazing and unbelievable sight!!!
But I can't tell you what it is because you're not a monk!!!
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
What is most important?
20% of the food you eat creates 80% of the fat!
20% of your neighbours make 80% of the noise.
20% of the people in your office do 80% of the work.
This is the 80/20 rule. You'll see it everywhere!
In 1897 an Italian economist called Pareto discovered that 20% of people in England had 80% of the money. He also found that 20% of pea pods in his garden produced 80% of his peas. Now he is famous!
His Pareto Principle predicts that ... in any situation, just a few things are much more important than all the rest.
This means:
In business: 20% of customers give you 80% of the profits.
Look after that 20%!
For students: 20% of a book's pages contain 80% of the information. Concentrate on that 20% - then read the next book.
For you: YOUR DAILY TASKS ARE NOT EQUALLY IMPORTANT. If you have ten jobs to do today, two of them will be more critical than the other eight!
Every day, figure out the 20%. Do those things FIRST.
Simply making a "to do list" is not good enough. Unless you target the 20%, you can waste 80% of your time!
Average people put average effort into lots of things.
Achievers put major effort into key things.
You can't do everything - but you can do the 20%. Don't lose sleep over the 80%.
It's not just the amount of effort that matters, but where you put it.
20% of your neighbours make 80% of the noise.
20% of the people in your office do 80% of the work.
This is the 80/20 rule. You'll see it everywhere!
In 1897 an Italian economist called Pareto discovered that 20% of people in England had 80% of the money. He also found that 20% of pea pods in his garden produced 80% of his peas. Now he is famous!
His Pareto Principle predicts that ... in any situation, just a few things are much more important than all the rest.
This means:
In business: 20% of customers give you 80% of the profits.
Look after that 20%!
For students: 20% of a book's pages contain 80% of the information. Concentrate on that 20% - then read the next book.
For you: YOUR DAILY TASKS ARE NOT EQUALLY IMPORTANT. If you have ten jobs to do today, two of them will be more critical than the other eight!
Every day, figure out the 20%. Do those things FIRST.
Simply making a "to do list" is not good enough. Unless you target the 20%, you can waste 80% of your time!
Average people put average effort into lots of things.
Achievers put major effort into key things.
You can't do everything - but you can do the 20%. Don't lose sleep over the 80%.
It's not just the amount of effort that matters, but where you put it.
Thursday, December 11, 2008
the love: Daddy's Hand
I remember Daddy´s hands, folded silently in prayer.
And reaching out to hold me, when I had a nightmare.
You could read quite a story, in the callouses and lines.
Years of work and worry had left their mark behind.
I remember Daddy´s hands, how they held my Mama tight,
And patted my back, for something done right.
There are things that I´ve forgotten, that I loved about the man,
But I´ll always remember the love in Daddy´s hands.
Daddy's hands were soft and kind when I was cryin´.
Daddy´s hands, were hard as steel when I´d done wrong.
Daddy´s hands, weren´t always gentle
But I´ve come to understand.
There was always love in Daddy´s hands.
I remember Daddy´s hands, working 'til they bled.
Sacrificed unselfishly, just to keep us all fed.
If I could do things over, I´d live my life again.
And never take for granted the love in Daddy´s hands.
And reaching out to hold me, when I had a nightmare.
You could read quite a story, in the callouses and lines.
Years of work and worry had left their mark behind.
I remember Daddy´s hands, how they held my Mama tight,
And patted my back, for something done right.
There are things that I´ve forgotten, that I loved about the man,
But I´ll always remember the love in Daddy´s hands.
Daddy's hands were soft and kind when I was cryin´.
Daddy´s hands, were hard as steel when I´d done wrong.
Daddy´s hands, weren´t always gentle
But I´ve come to understand.
There was always love in Daddy´s hands.
I remember Daddy´s hands, working 'til they bled.
Sacrificed unselfishly, just to keep us all fed.
If I could do things over, I´d live my life again.
And never take for granted the love in Daddy´s hands.
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
"31 Ways To Make A Girl Smile"
1. Dont hug her friends or your friends that are girls cause she'll feel left out
2. Hold her hand at any moment . . . even if its just for a second.
3. Hug her from behind
4. Leave her voice messages to wake up.
5. Wrestle with her
6. Don't go hang out with your ex when shes not with you, you might not realize how badly it hurts her.
7. If you're talking to another girl, when you're done talking, walk over and
hug her and kiss her.... let her know she's yours and they aren't.
8. Write her notes or call her just to say "hi"..and not just at night after you've already been out with other girls.
9. Introduce her to your friends . . . as your girlfriend.
10. Play with her hair.
11. Pick her up
12. Get upset if another guy touches her and she doesn't like it.
13. Make her laugh, if you can make her laugh, you can make her do
anything.
14. Let her fall asleep in your arms.
15. If she's mad at you, kiss her.
16. If you care about her, then tell her
17. Every guy should give their girl 3 things: a stuffed animal(she'll hug it every time she goes to sleep), jewelry (she'll treasure it forever), and one of his t-shirts (she'll most likely wear it to bed).
18. Treat her the same around your friends as you do when you're alone.
19. Look her in the eyes and smile.
20. Hang out with her on weekends
21. Kiss her in the rain
22. Kiss her just for the heck of it
23. If your listening to music, let her listen too.
24. Remember her birthday and get her something, even if
its simple and inexpensive, it came from YOU. it means all the world to HER. it's the thought that counts.
25. When she gives you a present on your birthday, Christmas, or just whenever, take it and tell her you love it, even if you don't (it'll make her happy.)
26. Always call her when you say you will, it may not seem like it, but it does hurt her and makes her think you don't care so call even if you can only talk for a minute. Girls don't necessarily have to have hour-long conversations every night but its nice for us to hear your voice even for a quick hello.
27. Give her what she wants
28. Recognize the small things . . . they usually mean the most.
29. Tell her shes beautiful, she needs to know her striving is working.
30. Hang out with her whenever you are free and u should be free to hang
with your girlfriend all the time
31. If u care about her...SHOW her!
2. Hold her hand at any moment . . . even if its just for a second.
3. Hug her from behind
4. Leave her voice messages to wake up.
5. Wrestle with her
6. Don't go hang out with your ex when shes not with you, you might not realize how badly it hurts her.
7. If you're talking to another girl, when you're done talking, walk over and
hug her and kiss her.... let her know she's yours and they aren't.
8. Write her notes or call her just to say "hi"..and not just at night after you've already been out with other girls.
9. Introduce her to your friends . . . as your girlfriend.
10. Play with her hair.
11. Pick her up
12. Get upset if another guy touches her and she doesn't like it.
13. Make her laugh, if you can make her laugh, you can make her do
anything.
14. Let her fall asleep in your arms.
15. If she's mad at you, kiss her.
16. If you care about her, then tell her
17. Every guy should give their girl 3 things: a stuffed animal(she'll hug it every time she goes to sleep), jewelry (she'll treasure it forever), and one of his t-shirts (she'll most likely wear it to bed).
18. Treat her the same around your friends as you do when you're alone.
19. Look her in the eyes and smile.
20. Hang out with her on weekends
21. Kiss her in the rain
22. Kiss her just for the heck of it
23. If your listening to music, let her listen too.
24. Remember her birthday and get her something, even if
its simple and inexpensive, it came from YOU. it means all the world to HER. it's the thought that counts.
25. When she gives you a present on your birthday, Christmas, or just whenever, take it and tell her you love it, even if you don't (it'll make her happy.)
26. Always call her when you say you will, it may not seem like it, but it does hurt her and makes her think you don't care so call even if you can only talk for a minute. Girls don't necessarily have to have hour-long conversations every night but its nice for us to hear your voice even for a quick hello.
27. Give her what she wants
28. Recognize the small things . . . they usually mean the most.
29. Tell her shes beautiful, she needs to know her striving is working.
30. Hang out with her whenever you are free and u should be free to hang
with your girlfriend all the time
31. If u care about her...SHOW her!
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
lessons
Until we learn a lesson, we keep getting it again - and again!
IF PEOPLE TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU ...
If your friends expect you to solve their problems, carry their stuff, clean their mess, buy their lunch - and you keep doing it - it will keep happening.
IF YOU KEEP GETTING RIPPED OFF ...
If you allow yourself to be cheated by landlords, auto mechanics and repairmen, it will keep happening.
Until you find some courage or learn some skills, you will bleed money.
IF YOU KEEP DATING JERKS ...
If you tolerate rude, lazy, selfish boyfriends - figuring any relationship is better than no relationship - you'll meet an endless stream of "partners from hell".
History repeats itself until we make a stand.
You might say, "If I was somewhere else - maybe Hawaii - or if I had different friends - I wouldn't have these problems!" Yes you would!
When we have a weakness, it's like a magnet ... wherever we go we attract the same lessons. It's a law of life.
Miserable people say, "Why does everything happen to me?"
Effective people say, "I'd better learn this lesson, it keeps coming back!"
Assume that every problem in your life is a lesson to make you stronger. Then you never feel like a victim.
IF PEOPLE TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU ...
If your friends expect you to solve their problems, carry their stuff, clean their mess, buy their lunch - and you keep doing it - it will keep happening.
IF YOU KEEP GETTING RIPPED OFF ...
If you allow yourself to be cheated by landlords, auto mechanics and repairmen, it will keep happening.
Until you find some courage or learn some skills, you will bleed money.
IF YOU KEEP DATING JERKS ...
If you tolerate rude, lazy, selfish boyfriends - figuring any relationship is better than no relationship - you'll meet an endless stream of "partners from hell".
History repeats itself until we make a stand.
You might say, "If I was somewhere else - maybe Hawaii - or if I had different friends - I wouldn't have these problems!" Yes you would!
When we have a weakness, it's like a magnet ... wherever we go we attract the same lessons. It's a law of life.
Miserable people say, "Why does everything happen to me?"
Effective people say, "I'd better learn this lesson, it keeps coming back!"
Assume that every problem in your life is a lesson to make you stronger. Then you never feel like a victim.
Monday, December 8, 2008
why set goals?
Sometimes we pick up the newspaper and read where an accountant has just rowed across the Atlantic in a bathtub, or where a librarian is riding a camel from L.A. to New York.
We might ask ourselves, "Why not take a plane?"
The answer to that is, "If you travel by bathtub (or camel), you arrive a whole different person to the one that left!" Not only do you reach your destination knowing a lot more about stars and weather and navigation - you know a lot more about yourself, and about your own courage and capabilities.
Buying a plane ticket doesn't have the same effect.
Likewise, when you set a goal to run a business or a marathon, when you set a goal to get a degree or a promotion, or to learn Chinese, you arrive a different person to the one that started.
That's what "goals" are really about - what they make of us in the process of achieving them. That's why we bother. Your friends and your brother-in-law won't always understand this concept!
We set goals not for what we GET, but for what we BECOME.
We might ask ourselves, "Why not take a plane?"
The answer to that is, "If you travel by bathtub (or camel), you arrive a whole different person to the one that left!" Not only do you reach your destination knowing a lot more about stars and weather and navigation - you know a lot more about yourself, and about your own courage and capabilities.
Buying a plane ticket doesn't have the same effect.
Likewise, when you set a goal to run a business or a marathon, when you set a goal to get a degree or a promotion, or to learn Chinese, you arrive a different person to the one that started.
That's what "goals" are really about - what they make of us in the process of achieving them. That's why we bother. Your friends and your brother-in-law won't always understand this concept!
We set goals not for what we GET, but for what we BECOME.
Sunday, December 7, 2008
9 attractive qualities women look for in a guy
My boy friends and I have spent many a long night brainstorming that magic formula of characteristics that drives the ladies wild. It is impossible to know just what the mixture is supposed to be, but is there one characteristic that can work alone to make a guy really attractive?
Here are the nine characteristics we've come up with. Testimony from a guy who is very much closed to me..
Sense of Humor
Everyone says how important sense of humor is, and I have learned to look for it in women. I am lucky enough to be able to make women laugh, but I'm still super single.
Trustworthy
Trust is the holy grail of a relationship. It takes years to build it, and it is so delicate. There are few things that take so long to attain that can be destroyed so quickly. So a lot of us may finally settle on a very trustworthy person when we finally find that.
Kindness
This seems like a no-brainer, but I've seen plenty of girls stay with guys who don't treat them well. So, I'm thinking that most women look for a nice guy, but the fact of the matter is that mean guys seem to get girlfriends too-and at a better rate than nice guys.
YachtMoney
I admit it: I sometimes envision myself marrying rich and sitting there doing nothing. I could lie out on my wife's yacht and host lavish parties and hear about how crazy the Roaring 20's were, when my wife's friends were my age. Money is definitely high on a lot of people's list: remember when Anna Nicole Smith married that really old rich guy? I doubt it was because she thought he was hot, funny, or great in the sack.
Super Hot
As much as we hate to admit it, the first thing we notice about someone else is how good or bad they look. But one of the first lessons we learn in the dating world is as beautiful as someone is on the outside, they could be ugly on the inside.
Confident
Confidence is based on a lot of these characteristics. You are confident if you are talented, super hot, intelligent, or wealthy most likely. But confidence also enables you to treat people better, so you are kind and trustworthy as well. Because confidence includes so many of these other characteristic, it may just be the one major thing women look for in a man.
Talented & Passionate
When someone possesses a special skill, such as visual art or guitar virtuosity, they get tons of girls. People like Jimi Hendrix, Led Zeppelin, and Tom Brady can go out with anyone they want because they are skilled. heck, I'd go out with them. Usually skill occurs in tandem with passion, another attractive quality. JHWhen someone is really good at something, but not "hot," it makes sense that they can still attract a lot of women. It's less annoying to see someone like this in a relationship than it is to see a rich mean guy in a relationship.
Intelligent
I am intimidated by women who are more intelligent than I am (which explains why I'm intimidated by about 97% of the female population). For a lot of people, intelligence is sexy. When someone is stupid, it's frustrating and boring, which is enough to drive someone away.
Convenient
One can argue that convenience is a huge driver for a relationship. Does he live near you, is he "ready" to be in a relationship, does he want to have kids or not? Everything matches up correctly. Sure, he may not be the best-looking guy or have a lot of money, but it's just what you need and it's been a long, difficult search.
If we put these characteristics on a pie chart, what would get the biggest piece of the pie with you? Again, some of these characteristics occur together: intelligence and wealth, talent and passion, kindness and generosity, convenience and wealth.
How often do women care about superficial things like money? It's scary, but sometimes I fear that no matter how funny I am, if I had lots of money I could date any cute girl I wanted.
How do all of these characteristics shake out for you when choosing a boyfriend, and are there any you'd add to the list? Does confidence just take all of these characteristics into consideration?
Here are the nine characteristics we've come up with. Testimony from a guy who is very much closed to me..
Sense of Humor
Everyone says how important sense of humor is, and I have learned to look for it in women. I am lucky enough to be able to make women laugh, but I'm still super single.
Trustworthy
Trust is the holy grail of a relationship. It takes years to build it, and it is so delicate. There are few things that take so long to attain that can be destroyed so quickly. So a lot of us may finally settle on a very trustworthy person when we finally find that.
Kindness
This seems like a no-brainer, but I've seen plenty of girls stay with guys who don't treat them well. So, I'm thinking that most women look for a nice guy, but the fact of the matter is that mean guys seem to get girlfriends too-and at a better rate than nice guys.
YachtMoney
I admit it: I sometimes envision myself marrying rich and sitting there doing nothing. I could lie out on my wife's yacht and host lavish parties and hear about how crazy the Roaring 20's were, when my wife's friends were my age. Money is definitely high on a lot of people's list: remember when Anna Nicole Smith married that really old rich guy? I doubt it was because she thought he was hot, funny, or great in the sack.
Super Hot
As much as we hate to admit it, the first thing we notice about someone else is how good or bad they look. But one of the first lessons we learn in the dating world is as beautiful as someone is on the outside, they could be ugly on the inside.
Confident
Confidence is based on a lot of these characteristics. You are confident if you are talented, super hot, intelligent, or wealthy most likely. But confidence also enables you to treat people better, so you are kind and trustworthy as well. Because confidence includes so many of these other characteristic, it may just be the one major thing women look for in a man.
Talented & Passionate
When someone possesses a special skill, such as visual art or guitar virtuosity, they get tons of girls. People like Jimi Hendrix, Led Zeppelin, and Tom Brady can go out with anyone they want because they are skilled. heck, I'd go out with them. Usually skill occurs in tandem with passion, another attractive quality. JHWhen someone is really good at something, but not "hot," it makes sense that they can still attract a lot of women. It's less annoying to see someone like this in a relationship than it is to see a rich mean guy in a relationship.
Intelligent
I am intimidated by women who are more intelligent than I am (which explains why I'm intimidated by about 97% of the female population). For a lot of people, intelligence is sexy. When someone is stupid, it's frustrating and boring, which is enough to drive someone away.
Convenient
One can argue that convenience is a huge driver for a relationship. Does he live near you, is he "ready" to be in a relationship, does he want to have kids or not? Everything matches up correctly. Sure, he may not be the best-looking guy or have a lot of money, but it's just what you need and it's been a long, difficult search.
If we put these characteristics on a pie chart, what would get the biggest piece of the pie with you? Again, some of these characteristics occur together: intelligence and wealth, talent and passion, kindness and generosity, convenience and wealth.
How often do women care about superficial things like money? It's scary, but sometimes I fear that no matter how funny I am, if I had lots of money I could date any cute girl I wanted.
How do all of these characteristics shake out for you when choosing a boyfriend, and are there any you'd add to the list? Does confidence just take all of these characteristics into consideration?
a track record
I know a fellow who is forever trying to clinch million dollar deals. But his big deals never happen! Meanwhile his car is falling apart and even his dog is getting thin.
Why? He never learned to clinch hundred dollar deals! He never developed the habit of success.
Most tycoons start washing cars or selling newspapers at about ten years of age. They develop a "success pattern". They sharpen their skills. Then they aim higher.
You first learn to catch little fish, then big fish.
Surgeons practise on tonsils before they do brain surgery!
What's so important about a success pattern? It's what gets you to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
When you know in your heart:
1. "I've prepared myself for this,"
2. "I can do it!" and
3. "I deserve it."
you are on your way.
When you don't believe in yourself, you are dead in the water.
Also, other people's patterns will tell you more about their future than all of their promises and all of their good intentions.
If some guy wants to: a) work for you b) borrow money c) be your business partner d) give you brain surgery, look at his track record.
If there's no success pattern, look out!
Wherever you are headed, start small and make success a habit.
Why? He never learned to clinch hundred dollar deals! He never developed the habit of success.
Most tycoons start washing cars or selling newspapers at about ten years of age. They develop a "success pattern". They sharpen their skills. Then they aim higher.
You first learn to catch little fish, then big fish.
Surgeons practise on tonsils before they do brain surgery!
What's so important about a success pattern? It's what gets you to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
When you know in your heart:
1. "I've prepared myself for this,"
2. "I can do it!" and
3. "I deserve it."
you are on your way.
When you don't believe in yourself, you are dead in the water.
Also, other people's patterns will tell you more about their future than all of their promises and all of their good intentions.
If some guy wants to: a) work for you b) borrow money c) be your business partner d) give you brain surgery, look at his track record.
If there's no success pattern, look out!
Wherever you are headed, start small and make success a habit.
Friday, December 5, 2008
a Christmas Story
One particular Christmas season a long time ago, Santa was getting ready for is annual trip, but there were problems everywhere. Four of his elves got sick, and the trainee elves did not produce the toys as fast as the regular ones so Santa was beginning to feel the pressure of being behind schedule.
Then Mrs. Claus told Santa that her mom was coming to visit. This stressed Santa even more.
When he went to harness the reindeer, he found that three of them were about to give birth and two had jumped the fence and were out, heaven knows where. More stress.
Then when he began to load the sleigh one of the boards cracked, and the toy bag fell to the ground and scattered the toys. So, frustrated, Santa went into the house for a cup of apple cider and a shot of rum. When he went to the cupboard, he discovered that the elves had hidden the liquor, and there was nothing to drink. In his frustration, he accidentally dropped the cider pot, and it broke into hundreds of little pieces all over the kitchen floor. He went to get the broom and found that mice had eaten the straw end of the broom. He saw some chocolate chip cookies on the table and decided to grab a bite to cheer him up only to find that its not chocolates on top of the cookies but mouse poop.
Just then the doorbell rang, and irritable Santa trudged to the door. He opened the door, and there was a little angel with a great Christmas tree.
The angel said, very cheerfully, "Merry Christmas, Fat Guy! Isn't it a lovely day? I have a beautiful tree for you. Where would you like me to stick it?"
Thus began the tradition of the little angel on top of the Christmas tree.
Then Mrs. Claus told Santa that her mom was coming to visit. This stressed Santa even more.
When he went to harness the reindeer, he found that three of them were about to give birth and two had jumped the fence and were out, heaven knows where. More stress.
Then when he began to load the sleigh one of the boards cracked, and the toy bag fell to the ground and scattered the toys. So, frustrated, Santa went into the house for a cup of apple cider and a shot of rum. When he went to the cupboard, he discovered that the elves had hidden the liquor, and there was nothing to drink. In his frustration, he accidentally dropped the cider pot, and it broke into hundreds of little pieces all over the kitchen floor. He went to get the broom and found that mice had eaten the straw end of the broom. He saw some chocolate chip cookies on the table and decided to grab a bite to cheer him up only to find that its not chocolates on top of the cookies but mouse poop.
Just then the doorbell rang, and irritable Santa trudged to the door. He opened the door, and there was a little angel with a great Christmas tree.
The angel said, very cheerfully, "Merry Christmas, Fat Guy! Isn't it a lovely day? I have a beautiful tree for you. Where would you like me to stick it?"
Thus began the tradition of the little angel on top of the Christmas tree.
Thursday, December 4, 2008
some words and thoughts..
Imagine a boxer stepping into the ring, and telling himself:
"I'm a loser. I'm a chicken!"
How long would he last?
Imagine a singer walking onstage, and telling herself:
"I'm pathetic! They'll hate me!"
How well would she sing?
It's a recipe for disaster.
Yet, lots of us use this same recipe every day. We tell ourselves:
"I'm fat."
"I have a rotten memory."
"I'm always broke."
"I'm an idiot."
Then we wonder why we fail!
If you expect to forget, you will forget!
If you expect to be broke, you will stay broke.
If you expect to behave like an idiot ...
So how do we start to think positively?
The first step is to watch your mouth! Notice what you SAY about yourself.
From today, NEVER SAY ANYTHING BAD ABOUT YOURSELF.
Never tell people: "I'm hopeless, I always screw up, my boyfriends always dump me ..."
Make a commitment: "From today, I will not criticise myself. If I have nothing good to say about me, I will keep my mouth shut."
It's hard to control our thoughts - but we CAN control what comes out of our mouth. Once we take control of our language, we begin to have more positive thoughts ... and life gets better.
We become what we think about!
"I'm a loser. I'm a chicken!"
How long would he last?
Imagine a singer walking onstage, and telling herself:
"I'm pathetic! They'll hate me!"
How well would she sing?
It's a recipe for disaster.
Yet, lots of us use this same recipe every day. We tell ourselves:
"I'm fat."
"I have a rotten memory."
"I'm always broke."
"I'm an idiot."
Then we wonder why we fail!
If you expect to forget, you will forget!
If you expect to be broke, you will stay broke.
If you expect to behave like an idiot ...
So how do we start to think positively?
The first step is to watch your mouth! Notice what you SAY about yourself.
From today, NEVER SAY ANYTHING BAD ABOUT YOURSELF.
Never tell people: "I'm hopeless, I always screw up, my boyfriends always dump me ..."
Make a commitment: "From today, I will not criticise myself. If I have nothing good to say about me, I will keep my mouth shut."
It's hard to control our thoughts - but we CAN control what comes out of our mouth. Once we take control of our language, we begin to have more positive thoughts ... and life gets better.
We become what we think about!
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
"ending a Relationship"
Ending a relationship is just like having the worst nightmare after having the best dream.......
"We cannot beg someone to stay if they want to leave and be with someone else. We have to admit that love doesn't give us the license to own a person. This is what love means... sacrifice."
"Often times we say goodbye to the person we love without wanting to. Though that doesnt mean that we've stopped loving them or we've stopped to care. Sometimes goodbye is a painful way to say I love you."
"Some people say the worst way to miss someone is when they are right next to you and you know you can't have them, but it's worse when you thought you didn't want them anymore and then all of a sudden you realize you can't live without them."
"Deep in your heart, you're suffering, knowing that you've lost someone . On the outside, you're living, pretending that you've forgotten him/her."
"A failing love is like desperately hanging on to something precious; not wanting to give up, but your hands feel the pain.!"
"We cannot beg someone to stay if they want to leave and be with someone else. We have to admit that love doesn't give us the license to own a person. This is what love means... sacrifice."
"Often times we say goodbye to the person we love without wanting to. Though that doesnt mean that we've stopped loving them or we've stopped to care. Sometimes goodbye is a painful way to say I love you."
"Some people say the worst way to miss someone is when they are right next to you and you know you can't have them, but it's worse when you thought you didn't want them anymore and then all of a sudden you realize you can't live without them."
"Deep in your heart, you're suffering, knowing that you've lost someone . On the outside, you're living, pretending that you've forgotten him/her."
"A failing love is like desperately hanging on to something precious; not wanting to give up, but your hands feel the pain.!"
Monday, December 1, 2008
excuses..
In life we have either excuses - or we have results.
It seems that some people are here just to teach us that ...
Roger Crawford was born with one leg and two arms, but no hands. What does he do? He's a professional tennis player. That is, he earned professional status and he makes his living playing and coaching tennis.
Digital Dan, of Ferndale, California was a carpenter until he got cancer of the throat and had his voice box removed. When he could no longer speak, he became a disc jockey!
Dan types his words into a laptop computer, and the laptop does the talking!
How often do we say ...
"I'm too old, too tired, too lazy, too busy... it's too hard!"
People like Roger and Dan remind us that our excuses are mostly pathetic!
Take any goal you want to achieve ... a university degree, an apartment of your own, a happy marriage, a flat stomach ... and you'll find a hundred reasons why it is inconvenient or impossible.
But all you need is ONE really good reason why you want something! Then you go and get it!
When you want something enough, you find a way.
Success is not about "the facts". It's about your attitude.
It seems that some people are here just to teach us that ...
Roger Crawford was born with one leg and two arms, but no hands. What does he do? He's a professional tennis player. That is, he earned professional status and he makes his living playing and coaching tennis.
Digital Dan, of Ferndale, California was a carpenter until he got cancer of the throat and had his voice box removed. When he could no longer speak, he became a disc jockey!
Dan types his words into a laptop computer, and the laptop does the talking!
How often do we say ...
"I'm too old, too tired, too lazy, too busy... it's too hard!"
People like Roger and Dan remind us that our excuses are mostly pathetic!
Take any goal you want to achieve ... a university degree, an apartment of your own, a happy marriage, a flat stomach ... and you'll find a hundred reasons why it is inconvenient or impossible.
But all you need is ONE really good reason why you want something! Then you go and get it!
When you want something enough, you find a way.
Success is not about "the facts". It's about your attitude.
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